The gap between your stated values and your actual conduct, especially when it’s inconvenient. Whether your word to yourself means as much as your word to others.
A reflective example
You keep every promise you make to other people, and quietly break almost every one you make to yourself.
WHY IT MATTERS
Every small gap between what you believe and what you do costs a little self-trust. Integrity is how you become someone you can rely on.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
Your word to yourself weighs as much as your word to others.
You do the inconvenient right thing when no one’s watching.
There’s little gap between what you believe and what you do.
Signs of Misalignment
You keep every promise to others, and break most to yourself.
Small compromises are quietly stacking up.
You’d be uncomfortable if your actions were fully seen.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
01
Keep small promises
Self-trust is built in tiny kept agreements with yourself, not grand ones.
02
Close the gap slowly
Integrity isn’t perfection. It’s noticing a gap and narrowing it, on purpose, again.
03
Go further in the workbook
Each edition turns insights like these into a concrete first move, matched to your lowest-scoring areas.
The gap between your stated values and your actual conduct, especially when it’s inconvenient. Whether your word to yourself means as much as your word to others.
A reflective example
“You keep every promise you make to other people, and quietly break almost every one you make to yourself.”
Why it matters
Every small gap between what you believe and what you do costs a little self-trust. Integrity is how you become someone you can rely on.
Two directions
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of alignment
✓Your word to yourself weighs as much as your word to others.
✓You do the inconvenient right thing when no one’s watching.
✓There’s little gap between what you believe and what you do.
Signs of misalignment
—You keep every promise to others, and break most to yourself.
—Small compromises are quietly stacking up.
—You’d be uncomfortable if your actions were fully seen.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
01
Keep small promises
Self-trust is built in tiny kept agreements with yourself, not grand ones.
02
Close the gap slowly
Integrity isn’t perfection. It’s noticing a gap and narrowing it, on purpose, again.
Go further in the workbook
Each edition turns insights like these into a concrete first move, matched to your lowest-scoring areas.