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RELATIONAL WHEEL - DIMENSION 16 OF 16
Family of Origin
The early blueprint you’re still working from.
OVERVIEW
What this dimension looks at.
How the family you grew up in still shapes your present: the rules you absorbed about love, conflict, worth and closeness, and which of them you’re running without having chosen.
A reflective example
You catch yourself reacting to your partner with the exact tone you swore you’d never repeat, the one you grew up on the receiving end of.
WHY IT MATTERS
You learned how relationships work long before you could question it. Seeing that blueprint clearly is what lets you keep what serves you and set the rest down.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
- You can see the rules you inherited, and choose among them.
- You keep what serves you and set the rest down.
- Old scripts inform you without running you.
Signs of Misalignment
- You react with the exact tone you swore you’d never use.
- Present relationships run on old, unchosen rules.
- You’re working from a blueprint you never got to approve.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
See the blueprint
You learned how love works before you could question it. Seeing it clearly is what makes it optional.
Keep, or set down
Not all of it needs discarding. The work is choosing, where before there was only inheritance.
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Each edition turns insights like these into a concrete first move, matched to your lowest-scoring areas.
YOUR RESULT
See where Family of Origin sits for you.
The free assessment gives you an honest overall result. The full assessment scores this dimension, and all fifteen others, individually.