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SELF WHEEL - DIMENSION 07 OF 16
Boundaries
Protecting what matters without building walls.
OVERVIEW
What this dimension looks at.
How well you hold the line between what’s yours to carry and what isn’t: your time, energy and attention. Whether you can say no cleanly, or only by disappearing or exploding.
A reflective example
You agree to the favour, the extra shift, the visit you didn’t want, and feel the resentment arrive before you’ve even hung up the phone.
WHY IT MATTERS
Weak boundaries turn generosity into resentment. Clear ones let you stay close to people without slowly handing yourself away in the process.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
- You can say no cleanly, without a case file.
- Your yes means yes, so people can trust it.
- You stay close to people without disappearing.
Signs of Misalignment
- You say yes, then feel resentment arrive before you’ve hung up.
- You only hold a line by vanishing or exploding.
- Your generosity keeps curdling into quiet resentment.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
A no is a whole sentence
Most boundary trouble is over-explaining. Clear and kind beats justified and resentful.
Resentment is data
It usually marks a boundary you meant to set and didn’t. Follow it back to the moment.
Go further in the workbook
Each edition turns insights like these into a concrete first move, matched to your lowest-scoring areas.
YOUR RESULT
See where Boundaries sits for you.
The free assessment gives you an honest overall result. The full assessment scores this dimension, and all fifteen others, individually.