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RELATIONAL WHEEL - DIMENSION 11 OF 16
Mutuality & Reciprocity
Relationships that give roughly as much as they take.
OVERVIEW
What this dimension looks at.
The balance of giving and receiving in your close relationships: whether effort, care and attention flow both ways over time, or mostly run in one direction.
A reflective example
You’re the one who always texts first, plans, remembers and checks in, and you’ve started wondering what would happen if you simply stopped.
WHY IT MATTERS
Chronic imbalance quietly erodes even good relationships. Mutuality isn’t scorekeeping, it’s noticing whether you’re both actually showing up.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
- Care and effort flow both ways over time.
- You can receive, not only give.
- You notice imbalance without keeping score.
Signs of Misalignment
- You’re always the one who texts, plans and remembers.
- You give until you’re wondering what would happen if you stopped.
- Receiving feels uncomfortable, so you quietly over-give.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
Let the ball sit
Sometimes the kindest information is what happens when you stop carrying it alone.
Receiving is relational too
Letting someone give to you is part of mutuality, not a break from it.
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Each edition turns insights like these into a concrete first move, matched to your lowest-scoring areas.
YOUR RESULT
See where Mutuality & Reciprocity sits for you.
The free assessment gives you an honest overall result. The full assessment scores this dimension, and all fifteen others, individually.