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RELATIONAL WHEEL - DIMENSION 12 OF 16
Conflict & Repair
Coming back well after things go wrong.
OVERVIEW
What this dimension looks at.
How you handle disagreement and rupture: whether you can stay in the room, hear a hard thing, own your part, and find your way back, or whether conflict tends to end in silence or scorched earth.
A reflective example
The argument technically ended days ago, but nothing was actually resolved, so you’re both being polite over a crack that never got mended.
WHY IT MATTERS
No close relationship avoids conflict. The ones that last are the ones that can repair, so a fight becomes information rather than damage.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
- You can hear a hard thing and stay in the room.
- You own your part without collapsing into blame.
- After a rupture, you find your way back.
Signs of Misalignment
- Fights end in silence or scorched earth, rarely repair.
- Arguments “end” without anything resolving.
- You’re polite over a crack that never got mended.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
Repair beats avoiding
Lasting relationships aren’t conflict-free. They’re the ones that can come back well.
Own one percent
Finding your genuine part, however small, is often what unlocks the whole repair.
Go further in the workbook
Each edition turns insights like these into a concrete first move, matched to your lowest-scoring areas.
YOUR RESULT
See where Conflict & Repair sits for you.
The free assessment gives you an honest overall result. The full assessment scores this dimension, and all fifteen others, individually.