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RELATIONAL WHEEL - DIMENSION 14 OF 16
Relational Boundaries
Staying yourself inside close relationships.
OVERVIEW
What this dimension looks at.
How you keep a sense of self while staying connected: whether you can be close without merging, accommodate without disappearing, and stay open without over-giving.
A reflective example
When someone you love is unhappy, you find it almost impossible to be okay yourself, as if their weather is automatically your weather too.
WHY IT MATTERS
Closeness without boundaries becomes enmeshment; boundaries without closeness becomes distance. This dimension is about holding both at once.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
- You can be close without merging into someone.
- You accommodate without disappearing.
- Their bad mood doesn’t automatically become yours.
Signs of Misalignment
- When someone you love is unhappy, you can’t be okay.
- You lose yourself inside close relationships.
- Closeness and self keep feeling like an either/or.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
Two people, two weathers
You can care deeply about someone’s feelings without adopting them as your own.
Closeness needs edges
A self to bring is what makes closeness possible. Boundaries are how intimacy stays safe.
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YOUR RESULT
See where Relational Boundaries sits for you.
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