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RELATIONAL WHEEL - DIMENSION 13 OF 16
Attractor Patterns
The kinds of people and dynamics you keep drawing in.
OVERVIEW
What this dimension looks at.
The recurring shapes in who and what you’re drawn to: the familiar dynamic that keeps reappearing with different faces, and what part of you keeps choosing it.
A reflective example
You look back at three very different relationships and realise, uncomfortably, that they ended in almost exactly the same conversation.
WHY IT MATTERS
When the same story keeps happening with new people, the common factor is worth understanding gently rather than judging. This is where patterns become choices.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
- You can spot a familiar dynamic before you’re deep in it.
- You choose people, rather than being pulled toward them.
- The old story is one you can now decline.
Signs of Misalignment
- Different people, oddly identical endings.
- The familiar keeps winning, even when it costs you.
- The same conversation keeps ending different relationships.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
Name the type
The pattern loses power once you can describe it plainly and without shame.
Familiar isn’t the same as good
Attraction often tracks what’s known. Noticing that is where choice begins.
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YOUR RESULT
See where Attractor Patterns sits for you.
The free assessment gives you an honest overall result. The full assessment scores this dimension, and all fifteen others, individually.