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RELATIONAL WHEEL - DIMENSION 15 OF 16
Intimacy & Vulnerability
Letting yourself be seen, not just liked.
OVERVIEW
What this dimension looks at.
Your capacity to be genuinely known: to show the parts you usually manage, ask for what you need, and let closeness in rather than performing a more acceptable version of yourself.
A reflective example
You’re the reliable one everyone opens up to, and it’s only just occurred to you that almost no one knows how you’re actually doing.
WHY IT MATTERS
You can be surrounded by people and still profoundly unseen. Intimacy is the difference between being liked and being known, and it can’t happen without some risk.
WHAT WE HOLD TO
What it looks like, either way.
These aren’t a diagnosis. They’re patterns, described plainly, so you can recognise where you tend to sit.
Signs of Alignment
- You let yourself be known, not just liked.
- You can show the parts you usually manage.
- You ask for what you need instead of performing fine.
Signs of Misalignment
- You’re the one everyone opens up to, and no one knows.
- You perform an acceptable version rather than the real one.
- Being liked feels safer than being seen.
Practical insights
Where the work tends to start.
Known beats liked
Being liked for a performance is lonelier than being known as you are.
Familiar isn’t the same as good
Intimacy grows in small disclosures, not grand ones. Start with something slightly true.
Go further in the workbook
Each edition turns insights like these into a concrete first move, matched to your lowest-scoring areas.
YOUR RESULT
See where Intimacy & Vulnerability sits for you.
The free assessment gives you an honest overall result. The full assessment scores this dimension, and all fifteen others, individually.